From Conditioning to Creatrix: Reclaiming Desire, Choice and Self-Trust

In this powerful and eye-opening keynote, Carmen guides women through the journey from unconscious self-abandonment to embodied choice. This talk helps women understand why they struggle to know what they want and shows them how to reconnect with their inner voice, their desires and their sense of personal authority.

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Key Takeaways

Attendees experience:

Why many women struggle to access desire
How to recognize conditioning that shapes their patterns of people-pleasing and self-silencing
Empowered to say no without collapse or guilt
How stress responses like freeze and fawn block choice and self-expression
The difference between “going along” and true embodied choice
Why receiving is essential to knowing what we want
How to begin reconnecting to desires through body awareness and sensation
Practical reflection questions they can use immediately in life and relationships
Inspiration to step into the identity of Creatrix — the woman who lives by design, not default

Why This Talk Matters Right Now

Women are burned out from overfunctioning, decision fatigue and emotional labor. They are successful, capable and exhausted — yet quietly unsure of what they truly want for themselves.

This keynote gives language, relief and direction. It helps women move from survival and self-minimization into clarity, self-trust and empowered expression.

What people say about Carmen

Transformational conversations and powerful insights into pleasure and expansion have made working with Carmen a joy. I highly recommend her for any podcast.

Erin Keating

Her personable presence and open sharing of personal experience make every workshop and interview impactful. I highly recommend Carmen for speaking or podcast engagements.

Tammy Nelson, PhD, LPC

Her ability to articulate pleasure as the foundation for authenticity and sustainable business is powerful. I highly recommend Carmen for interviews, workshops, or speaking.

Tessa from The Open Nesters

Ideal For

Women’s conferences
Leadership events for women
Personal development summits
Wellness and empowerment retreats
Corporate women’s initiatives
Workshops for women and couples

Bring Carmen to your stage to give women the permission, language and tools to become the Creatrix of their own lives.

About Carmen

In her early forties, Carmen separated from her husband and began dating again. She embarked on dating in search of a new partner but what she discovered was so much more about herself and the type of life she wanted to create.

A few of her early epiphanies included:

People will treat you how you allow them to treat you and valuing yourself enough to have standards is key to enjoying dating and not settling for mediocre (or worse);
What we allow ourselves to desire or want is often through the lens of what we perceive to be socially acceptable and isn’t really from within ourselves;
Partnership is only one way to get connection and touch needs met and often we shrink ourselves in order to become desired by others;
There are multitudes of ways to create a life that feels expansive, joyous and delicious and it all starts with giving ourselves permission to dream big.

Carmen embarked on a coaching journey after many years of exploring, dating and trying to uncover her own true desires. She is a certified coach and platonic touch facilitator. Her work is inspired by the work of Betty Martin and the Wheel of Consent.

Carmen has helped women become more aware of their unconscious patterns of “going along” and “tolerating” things they don’t want. Her work empowers women to embody choice, reclaim their power, unveil their desires and be able to receive and embrace them.

Her workshops are slow, choice-based somatic experiences that are based on finding safety, uncovering desires and limits, activating voices and actively giving and receiving.